At times, life seems like an endless list of responsibilities. To-do lists, schedules, obligations ⎼ it can get overwhelming. There are days when I want to cancel, avoid following through, and even ignore phone calls.
As someone who plans events, I know how much work goes into everything. I recognize that my lack of follow-through creates a ripple effect. That it affects others when I don’t show up to things I have committed to. So, I try to think beyond myself and focus on the consequences of my actions.
My values need to align with my behavior. When they don’t, it doesn’t feel good. I worry about letting others down. I ask myself, did my inability to complete a task create problems or delay something from being completed? Guilt sets in and I regret not doing what I said I would.
To lead a more balanced life, I have started doing the following:
1. Learning to prioritize life.
I have let go of the idea that everything must get done right at this very moment and started asking myself: What do I really need to get done? What can wait? What makes me feel good? What is holding me down?
2. Allowing myself to say no when I have too much on my plate.
Before I say yes to new things, I ask myself: Does this make me feel good? Am I being weighed down? Not being a “yes” person is a gift. It is a form of self-care and the best present you can give your soul.
3. Scheduling time for myself.
Nothing else is going to matter if I don’t take care of myself. I will eventually become overwhelmed, tired and unable to fulfill commitments. Doing things that fill up my spirit propel me forward in a healthy way.
Our lives will never be completely balanced. We have to make adjustments as we go but if we do so in a way that is aligned with who we are, what we value and how we want to feel, we can’t go wrong.
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